旁观者干预

FSU's bystander intervention curriculum, developed by our partner Voices Against Violence, teaches bystanders how to safely intervene in instances where someone is at risk of experiencing harm or causing harm to others.  This 50-minute program is delivered on campus throughout the year and can be provided upon request to campus groups and in the classroom.  

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• Know that sexual assault occurs in our communities 而我们 can SHAPE safe and supportive communities through our actions.
• 你的安全是至高无上的.  It is always safest to intervene with others and from a distance.
• Be willing to speak up in difficult situations.
  • Ask the person if they need help.
  • Defuse the situation through humor or distraction.
  • Be direct and tell someone if their behavior is out of line.
• Do not assume that just because no one else speaks up, that everyone else is fine with what's happening.  
  • If you step up and speak out, others will likely back you up.  
• Intervention does not have to mean conflict.  Sometimes it's enough to cause a distraction or just disrupt the current course of events.  考虑一下这些选择:
  • Turn on the lights/turn off the music at a party.
  • Spill a drink on the potential perpetrator or victim.
  • Ask the potential victim, if female, for a personal item like a tampon.
  • Let the potential victim know you're leaving and encourage them to leave with you.
  • Ask a friend of the potential perpetrator to pull them aside for something.
• Discuss the issues of sexual assault, 暴力的关系, and stalking with friends or share information and resources through social media.
• Be conscious of your use of language and choose words carefully.  Cultural messages have the ability to support or discourage violence.  
  • Challenge societal messages about what it means to be a man or a woman and show appreciation when someone challenges gender stereotypes.
  • Be aware of, and refuse to use, sexist, homophobic, and demeaning language.
• Don’t joke about sexual assault; comments and jokes that are meant to “ease the tension” or are “just kidding around” can trivialize the severity of the behavior.
• Know what you value and make it clear to friends and family.  Seeking out these positive traits in others allows you to identify and build healthy relationships. 
• Share positive messages with friends and family.
• Communicate with your own partner about physical/sexual wants and boundaries.
• Remember that it's never too early or too late to do something.  

• A person has declared that they are intent on engaging in sexual activity with someone regardless of the status of the other person's knowledge or consent.
• Someone has been pressured or encouraged to engage in sexual activity with as many people or as frequently as possible.
• A person is providing excessive amounts of alcohol to someone with an intent to engage in sexual activity.
• A person is about to engage in sexual activity with someone who is incapacitated by drugs or alcohol.
• It appears that one party may be blacking out or unaware of their current situation.

• Insults, humiliating language or putting the person down in front of others.
• Explosive temper, mood swings, or verbal abuse.
• 嫉妒或占有欲.
• Stalking behaviors such as following, watching from a distance, unwanted or excessive communication.
• Invasion of privacy or obsessive tracking of the person's activities.  
• Doesn't seem to care about what their partner wants.
• 害怕让伴侣不高兴.
• 少花时间和朋友在一起.
• Physical assault such as slapping, hitting, and punching.  

• Listen carefully, without judgment.
• 不要责怪. Believe the victim and make it clear the fault lies only with the abuser. 
• 提供一个安全的地方.
• Let the survivor make decisions about next steps. All control has been stripped from the victim during the assault. Allow the victim to make decisions about what steps to take next.
• Assist in getting the treatment/services they need if they agree.
• 保持冷静. 你可能会感到震惊或愤怒, but expressing these emotions to the victim may cause the victim more trauma.
• Encourage medical attention and counseling.
• Refer them to the resources and reporting information available on the SHAPE website.
• 自己寻求帮助.